Facebook

J--just one more thing....the F word...facebook. It is difficult at your age to have your life not be an open book because of how tied you are to social networking; however, some years ago I had a mentor tell me to "close my circle" of friends--no one gets in, no one gets out--after a several million dollar real estate deal suddenly disappeared by talking about it with my best friend (who showed up unannounced, but with flowers on my birthday). We talked for hours, and, of course the deal I had worked on all day long came up. She also worked in the field, but for a developer--and within a day my deal, my contract and ultimately, she was gone.

What I am saying to you, is that you can't trust the people that you think you can trust--because I certainly couldn't and I'm much further away from home town gossip than you are.

IF you are going to be multiple dating until a man proves himself worthy and takes you off the market, it would behoove you NOT to leave pictures of you with other men on your profile so that A. or anyone else that you might be interested in see pictures of you out at a party or harmlessly standing with another man's arm around you. I'm again going to stress for you the concept of lying for love. Right now, you should be letting as many men as care to shower you with symbols of their affection toward you. If you make one angry, he will no longer have his heart as open to courting you as he did prior to seeing you with another man.

IF you aren't ready to let go of hundreds of friends and the entire town knowing your life in pictures, I would suggest to you to have a separate facebook account for any new suitors to befriend you. I would be as prudent as possible about putting up pictures with other men. Have all of your girlfriends up with the fun times you've spent with them, your siblings, etc. but not pictures of you and other men you are dating. Your current friends can stay on your main account, but add and remove suitors as friends as they come in and out of your life without anyone who doesn't need to be privy to your most intimate details of your single dating life.