Arrogance

I came across someone responding 'lol, poor guy' in her misunderstanding of a man's response and her own lack of feminine energy. She had written in her online profile in the 'what I'm looking for' section 'if you wish, you might send me a message letting me know why you think that I might be interested in a place in your life'. Ouch, that's incredibly brusk. She had a responder say to her that 'there appears to be a failure somewhere veiled in an arrogant demand'. Good for him. She said that he had written more, but she had chosen not to respond to him.
Initally, it might appear offensive that he would have made such a remark to her, but the reality is that he is right. I offered her my opinion:

Pat calls this 'topping from the bottom'...meaning that what appears to be a feminine request is actually back-handedly masculine. I'm going to presume that you're looking for an man with yang/masculine energy...am I correct? If I am, then your profile is written from the masculine. It is the men that vie for a position in our life by interviewing FOR us, not to a request of 'dance for me'--or in this case asking him to perform the task of 'tell me why'. Just like in a job interview where a man would be telling you all of his attributes of why he's the best candidate, so will a man who is interested in you--without asking. I didn't believe this until I started noticing that they would...that the emails I received from men who were interested in me were filled with men telling me all about their lives.

That dates that APPEAR to be of men bragging and bored to tears one sided conversations are actually men interviewing for a position in your life.

It's always a man's choice (as to who he dates) but a woman's perogative to say yes or no to what he offers.

Your responder is correct--it is arrogant and 'in your face' to say to a man 'tell me why I might be interested in being in your life'. Feminine energy is to be receiptive to what he might offer to bring to your life without asking for it. It might be easier to think of this as action verses reaction. He is a guy responding (reaction on his part) to your action of asking for a man to 'entertain you with his wit and purpose' instead of allowing him to do the entertaining (action) while you stand still..sweetly smiling (reacting).

Unless he has something else in his profile that is a blatent red flag, I'd ask you to reconsider him....here is masculine energy at it's finest...a man who's willing to go toe to toe with you--yang to yang--and let the better 'man' win...I'd betcha dollars to donuts he comes out the winner...and without knowing anything else about you, he already knows it.