OK, I'm making it official--and I'll post this prior to my finishing this blog entry; I'm picking that Brad will ask the blond with the little girl to be his wife--and for only one reason; her choosing virtue over her working for his affections. Virtue is a lifestyle choice.
I don't typically watch this show; I think that it's cruel to watch someone who is the object of you're hearts desire court, kiss, be potentially sexual with and be crushed with jealousy moment after moment in the show. I don't want to be that involved as part of that weekly prurience. I also don't believe that a woman should ever have to chase a man for his time, interest or affection--he should be chasing her. But I caught this show a few times this season. Our blond told the bachelor that she had only been in love once, that she found herself pregnant at the same time her fiance died in a plane crash. She's 24 and hadn't introduced any suitors to her daughter and initially wasn't sure she wanted to introduce little Ricki to Brad.
In a way, I'm sad for her. Considering that she's 24, she acts as if she's at least 34; somewhere she's lost a part of her youth to life and circumstance. And I think that when you compare her to the other girls who vied for his attention by "stealing" time with him she was different. When Brad asked her to spend the night with him her response was that she needed to be a good role model, but she would stay and TALK with him. Letting him know that no, she would not be sleeping with him. When Brad did the home visit, he said that he wanted to kiss her, but he wouldn't because her daughter was upstairs. She let him know that if they were to be married, she would always be upstairs. He respected her enough throughout the show not to take more from her than she was willing to give at any time; by the time she chose to introduce her to him, Brad perceived it as it should have been--not just a gift, but give back for all he had given to her--first. Most of all, he cupped her face when he kissed her...that gentleness of treasuring her in his hands.
Unlike the other girls, she didn't ask for more, she didn't have to. She stood still where she was in the world and let Brad chose whether or court her or not. I believe that if Brad would have chosen not to, she would have not been any worse for wear as the other women were shown cried and died over their rejection.
But truth be told, the women who were sent home, did it to themselves. They became prematurely attached and monogamous with a man prior to his willingness to commit to them. He showed them by his actions that he was willing to continue to date and be open to the possibility that another woman would win his heart.
Granted, some couldn't help it. Nature has it's way of oxytocin bonding women to men. Chemical addiction: dopamine, testosterone, oxytocin...chained and bound. But of the others, the women acted like men. The brunette who's also on tonight slapped him upon meeting her. I would have sent her home that first night. She could not have been more disrespectful to him as a man standing there with his heart open to possibility...he may find some poetic justice in her rejection tonight...then there was the beautiful one who manipulated him into being physical with him on the beach in front of the other girls...what did she really think she'd accomplish by doing that? Treating him that way was treating him like a child who was unable to decide for himself who he wanted by his side...she couldn't possibly know better than he did who was right for him...
I'll continue this tomorrow and we'll see if I was right...the heart wants what it wants...
I don't typically watch this show; I think that it's cruel to watch someone who is the object of you're hearts desire court, kiss, be potentially sexual with and be crushed with jealousy moment after moment in the show. I don't want to be that involved as part of that weekly prurience. I also don't believe that a woman should ever have to chase a man for his time, interest or affection--he should be chasing her. But I caught this show a few times this season. Our blond told the bachelor that she had only been in love once, that she found herself pregnant at the same time her fiance died in a plane crash. She's 24 and hadn't introduced any suitors to her daughter and initially wasn't sure she wanted to introduce little Ricki to Brad.
In a way, I'm sad for her. Considering that she's 24, she acts as if she's at least 34; somewhere she's lost a part of her youth to life and circumstance. And I think that when you compare her to the other girls who vied for his attention by "stealing" time with him she was different. When Brad asked her to spend the night with him her response was that she needed to be a good role model, but she would stay and TALK with him. Letting him know that no, she would not be sleeping with him. When Brad did the home visit, he said that he wanted to kiss her, but he wouldn't because her daughter was upstairs. She let him know that if they were to be married, she would always be upstairs. He respected her enough throughout the show not to take more from her than she was willing to give at any time; by the time she chose to introduce her to him, Brad perceived it as it should have been--not just a gift, but give back for all he had given to her--first. Most of all, he cupped her face when he kissed her...that gentleness of treasuring her in his hands.
Unlike the other girls, she didn't ask for more, she didn't have to. She stood still where she was in the world and let Brad chose whether or court her or not. I believe that if Brad would have chosen not to, she would have not been any worse for wear as the other women were shown cried and died over their rejection.
But truth be told, the women who were sent home, did it to themselves. They became prematurely attached and monogamous with a man prior to his willingness to commit to them. He showed them by his actions that he was willing to continue to date and be open to the possibility that another woman would win his heart.
Granted, some couldn't help it. Nature has it's way of oxytocin bonding women to men. Chemical addiction: dopamine, testosterone, oxytocin...chained and bound. But of the others, the women acted like men. The brunette who's also on tonight slapped him upon meeting her. I would have sent her home that first night. She could not have been more disrespectful to him as a man standing there with his heart open to possibility...he may find some poetic justice in her rejection tonight...then there was the beautiful one who manipulated him into being physical with him on the beach in front of the other girls...what did she really think she'd accomplish by doing that? Treating him that way was treating him like a child who was unable to decide for himself who he wanted by his side...she couldn't possibly know better than he did who was right for him...
I'll continue this tomorrow and we'll see if I was right...the heart wants what it wants...
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