Yup, I was right. It was the blond—Emily. The reasons why are…
Pat always says that a woman’s only job is to look good, smell good, taste good, feel good and sound good. When Ed and I were together I loved when he used to say those exact things to me…
She also says that a man who loves you will cherish, protect and provide for you. Our bachelor Brad was not lacking in his verbal declarations of those very same words either.
When a man falls in love with a woman, he falls in love with her in the “spaces”. Not when he is with her, but how much he misses her when he’s not with her…how there is something missing when she’s gone.
Brad declared his love by saying that he was excited to see her; wanted to protect her; he wanted to take care of her; he wanted to be a family man and that he was “in” for whatever that meant; that he wanted to be her daughter’s father—not a step father . When Emily asked what being a father meant to him, he said to love, provide, protect, be friends with her daughter, be a disciplinarian when needed and he was willing to take the good and bad, and the bad and good. (When a man loves a woman, he loves and takes care of everything that she loves.) He asked for the chance to be the best father I can be.
He said what he loved about Emily was her “aura”. When a man falls in love, it is her essence, not anything specific about her…it is her everything. He said he was buying her an engagement ring with intent. He said he loved that she’s a lady; she’s poised; she’s private; she makes me want to be a better person. And that is her virtue; a man will always choose virtue.
She said she wasn’t ready to move to Austin. He said she wasn’t losing his love. She’s the one because he said so; his choice.
He rubs the fourth finger of her left hand; the ring finger, the finger that is directly attached to the heart, he rubs to bring warmth and blood.
That reminded me of a time when I was dating an attorney. He used to take the ring that would wear on my left hand, fourth finger and remove it just above my knuckle. Over and over he would practice taking it off and slipping a ring on to my finger. I'd let him without saying a word; I pretended not to notice. Ultimately, he didn't ask me to marry him, but he "tried me on" and I liked it...I would have said yes to him.
And there were other clues for Chantal…yin and yang behavior.
Chantal was masculine and yang in her behavior. She chased him—told him repeatedly how she felt, she made him gifts—he gave her none. A man will only love you, if you give him the space to. As a woman, you must train yourself not to step into the spaces between you. If you step into the space, he backs up; he can’t move toward you.
I learned that lesson when I met Tony Robbins. I was up on stage with a line full of people and I watched them hugging him and telling him how he had changed their lives. At best, he tolerated their behavior; no one seemed to notice. When he came over to me, I put my hand out to shake it and I introduced myself. He touched me, took a step towards, smiled and told me I had beautiful eyes. I let him, and he entered my space as a man, not a speaker. That moment was far more intimate than stroking him.
Brad’s behavior toward Chantal was different because she behaved differently. She moved into his yang space and he treated her accordingly. With Emily as she stepped out of the helicopter he protected her by saying “watch your step”. With Chantal he said he took her shark diving and told her he admired her strength, confidence and bravery—yang, masculine traits. Do you see? She behaved masculinity by professing her love FIRST, giving gifts FIRST, by slapping him when she met him, by saying to him and his family “you better pick me”. Because Chantal didn’t behave like a woman, he didn’t feel that he had to treat her like one…he said he was himself and comfortable—like two male friends. With Emily he said he is always nervous, he kisses her hands and tells her I miss you when I’m not with you.
There is that old expression that says a man is man until he meets a lady, and then he becomes a gentleman. Brad say that she’s worth it to try to change for and that I wouldn’t want her to feel anything less than loved. He asked Emily to give him the opportunity to love you for the rest of your life.
In the end Chantal said that she had found another man. She was lying. She wouldn't have cried if it were the truth. She said she felt stupid that although she thought he was "the one", he didn't even love her. The signs were everywhere that he didn't....she just didn't know how to read them.
Pat always says that a woman’s only job is to look good, smell good, taste good, feel good and sound good. When Ed and I were together I loved when he used to say those exact things to me…
She also says that a man who loves you will cherish, protect and provide for you. Our bachelor Brad was not lacking in his verbal declarations of those very same words either.
When a man falls in love with a woman, he falls in love with her in the “spaces”. Not when he is with her, but how much he misses her when he’s not with her…how there is something missing when she’s gone.
Brad declared his love by saying that he was excited to see her; wanted to protect her; he wanted to take care of her; he wanted to be a family man and that he was “in” for whatever that meant; that he wanted to be her daughter’s father—not a step father . When Emily asked what being a father meant to him, he said to love, provide, protect, be friends with her daughter, be a disciplinarian when needed and he was willing to take the good and bad, and the bad and good. (When a man loves a woman, he loves and takes care of everything that she loves.) He asked for the chance to be the best father I can be.
He said what he loved about Emily was her “aura”. When a man falls in love, it is her essence, not anything specific about her…it is her everything. He said he was buying her an engagement ring with intent. He said he loved that she’s a lady; she’s poised; she’s private; she makes me want to be a better person. And that is her virtue; a man will always choose virtue.
She said she wasn’t ready to move to Austin. He said she wasn’t losing his love. She’s the one because he said so; his choice.
He rubs the fourth finger of her left hand; the ring finger, the finger that is directly attached to the heart, he rubs to bring warmth and blood.
That reminded me of a time when I was dating an attorney. He used to take the ring that would wear on my left hand, fourth finger and remove it just above my knuckle. Over and over he would practice taking it off and slipping a ring on to my finger. I'd let him without saying a word; I pretended not to notice. Ultimately, he didn't ask me to marry him, but he "tried me on" and I liked it...I would have said yes to him.
And there were other clues for Chantal…yin and yang behavior.
Chantal was masculine and yang in her behavior. She chased him—told him repeatedly how she felt, she made him gifts—he gave her none. A man will only love you, if you give him the space to. As a woman, you must train yourself not to step into the spaces between you. If you step into the space, he backs up; he can’t move toward you.
I learned that lesson when I met Tony Robbins. I was up on stage with a line full of people and I watched them hugging him and telling him how he had changed their lives. At best, he tolerated their behavior; no one seemed to notice. When he came over to me, I put my hand out to shake it and I introduced myself. He touched me, took a step towards, smiled and told me I had beautiful eyes. I let him, and he entered my space as a man, not a speaker. That moment was far more intimate than stroking him.
Brad’s behavior toward Chantal was different because she behaved differently. She moved into his yang space and he treated her accordingly. With Emily as she stepped out of the helicopter he protected her by saying “watch your step”. With Chantal he said he took her shark diving and told her he admired her strength, confidence and bravery—yang, masculine traits. Do you see? She behaved masculinity by professing her love FIRST, giving gifts FIRST, by slapping him when she met him, by saying to him and his family “you better pick me”. Because Chantal didn’t behave like a woman, he didn’t feel that he had to treat her like one…he said he was himself and comfortable—like two male friends. With Emily he said he is always nervous, he kisses her hands and tells her I miss you when I’m not with you.
There is that old expression that says a man is man until he meets a lady, and then he becomes a gentleman. Brad say that she’s worth it to try to change for and that I wouldn’t want her to feel anything less than loved. He asked Emily to give him the opportunity to love you for the rest of your life.
In the end Chantal said that she had found another man. She was lying. She wouldn't have cried if it were the truth. She said she felt stupid that although she thought he was "the one", he didn't even love her. The signs were everywhere that he didn't....she just didn't know how to read them.
No comments:
Post a Comment